A Cordial Invitation

Wow, it certainly has been ages since I last updated this blog of mine! I’ve really been so caught up with a lot of things – planning, preparing, executing. None of which had anything to do with our wedding. Heh. I never thought I’d actually be this chill at this stage but I shouldn’t be too quick in saying so. I certainly did have a few bridezilla moments. But really girls…

bride

Of course, it’s not like we didn’t accomplish anything at all. We did strike off a few items from our checklist. Some quick updates:-

  1. Buy our matrimonial bed – We happened to be at Expo one day and lo and behold, there was a furniture fair! We managed to get a bed and mattress that both of us agreed to (didn’t think getting a bed could be so difficult!) and we liked that it can be delivered as and when we like as long as we give them 3-4 weeks notice!
  2. Buy wedding band & mahar – I’m getting two rings! Yes two. Hehe. As we both agreed to no monetary form of gift / hantaran, my dear kind-hearted Z decided I could get two rings hehe. Alhamdulillah! We opted to get rose gold for both the wedding band and mahar. We managed to get both rings on the same day (we were just supposed to survey for them but ended up buying them because you know, I’m a bit impatient like that. But good la cos my mahar takes 6 months to be ready since it’s customized) from Goldheart and Love & Co. at Tampines Mall. Service from both stores was great – extra mention for Love & Co. for a personalised service! They even served us tea and biscuits! Extra happy with the ring Z got me from Love & Co. too! ūüôā No pictures until the actual day!
  3. Book airplane tickets & accommodation for our mini honeymoon – Finally made time for this. We decided to go with SilkAir instead of JetStar or Tiger since the prices for budget airline add up to be about the same. So why not, right? I’m having second thoughts about the resort we’ve booked but I guess I’ll think about that later…

Yup, that’s about it. Z mentioned how everything had nothing to do with the actual wedding but rather life after wedding but then again, the marriage is what matters most right? ūüôā

Anyways, I’m  currently at the ideation stage for our wedding invitations. I had wanted the ever ubiquitous floral theme initially but I’m now starting to go for something more minimalist and classic. Or a mix of both because I still love flowers. Like so:

They are so pretty! I spend hours scouring Pinterest for ideas and it doesn’t help at all! I just keep changing what I want. I can’t even decide the size that I want for the card. A6 is definitely too small and I have mixed feelings for DL – it’s neither here nor there. A square card is cute too! Gah! And I’ve got ideas to include envelope liners and all but really, I’ve got no time for that so I guess I’ll just reserve that for the special ones and the ones whom I know will not chuck my invitation card aside. Hehe.

Also, I was supposed to start on the card over this long weekend but hey, it’s almost ending! I obviously didn’t do anything about it… And the next time I can finally start on the card is in two weeks time because my dear friend is getting married and duty calls for this bridesmaid!

Maybe I shouldn’t be too ambitious and just, you know, get someone to do the card for me?

Oh the dilemma!

Love,

klumsyride

 

 

 

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The Perfect Venue Part 1

So, I’m not sure if any of you read the papers recently but this certain article caught my attention.

Malay couples paying more for alternative wedding venues

Malay couples are increasingly moving away from the traditional wedding ceremony at void decks and holding them at private venues, even if that means paying more.

Wedding planners catering to Malay marriages told The Sunday Times that about 30 per cent of their clients are now having their weddings at community clubs, country clubs or function halls.

It was less than 10 per cent five years ago.

The Straits Times, 13 March 2016

Nothing new for most of us, of course. It’s no longer uncommon to be attending Malay weddings held at venues such as community clubs, Hort Park and country clubs. Majority of these wedding venues come with a hefty price tag, especially if you were to compare with void decks. But of course, you pay for the services, facilities and ambience and if these things are what you’re looking for, it’s definitely not wrong. There are also venues that offer all-in-one packages at a steal and in my opinion, this works best for fuss-free couples. I’m still on the search for The Perfect Venue for my side of the reception so while I’m at it, I thought I should share some of the alternative and unique venues that my family, Z and I have looked into. For me, it is important that the venues are permanent, air-conditioned or not. I’m not exactly interested in outdoor weddings under a huge and temporary tent. So let’s look at my list of venues consisting of:

  1. Muslim Delights @ Luzerne
  2. Hort Park
  3. The Grassroots Club
  4. Begonia Ballroom
  5. The Joyden Hall
  6. Grand Marquee @ Alkaff Mansion (not available after Dec 2016)

All-in-one Wedding Venue: Muslim Delights @ Luzerne

When Z and I first started planning the wedding, we toyed with the idea of having the wedding reception at Muslim Delights @ Luzerne. I first fell in love with the venue when I found out it’s THE venue that Taufik Batisah held his wedding. the venue consists of indoor and outdoor function halls and can fit quite a number of tables. They also provide changing room, a room for resting (with beds!), toilets and prayer room. The dais is also not too shabby and quite to my liking. Best of all, we don’t even have to rent tiffany chairs since they are included in the package. We also felt that it was a great venue for combined weddings especially for us since it’s basically in between our houses. But in the end, we decided to give the venue a miss despite the reasonable package offered to us because our families preferred to have separate wedding functions. There are other wedding venues you can look into if you are looking for a fuss-free wedding. They are Charisma D’venue (for an intimate wedding dinner reception), The Orange Ballroom, Muslim Delights at The Grassroots Club and The Ballroom by AB Shaik. Oh, Muslim Delights also has another in-house venue at The Grassroots Club and the prices are slightly lower than that of Luzerne’s but the venue is just as beautiful! ūüôā

Slightly More Atas Than A Community Centre’s MPH: Hort Park MPH

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Credit: HOST Weddings & Events

If you are a fan of garden-themed weddings, that the function hall at Hort Park has got to be the venue for you. I attended a friend’s wedding here and except for the location, I thought it’s a beautiful place to have a wedding. I shared with my parents how beautiful the venue was and they were initially interested in the idea of having the wedding in a garden as well. The rental of the venue was not bad (I won’t say affordable because that’s subjective) for something that’s out of the ordinary. You can easily find the rates here. Don’t you love it when companies and organisations upload their rental rates or package prices online, readily available for us netizens? I don’t really enjoy emailing neither do I enjoy making phone calls so I greatly appreciate little things like this. Hehe. A thing to not is that they don’t allow cooking on-site so there’ll be additional logistic charges you need to pay to your caterer. Anyway, in the end, my parents decided against the venue because they must have the venue at Woodlands because we live in Woodlands. Ok. Can.

Slightly More Atas Than A Community Centre’s MPH: The Grassroots Club MPH

grassroots

When I saw this photo, I went O-M-G. 36 tables you know!!! Your guests certainly don’t have to fight for tables especially during peak periods. And you still can have enough space for family members and loyal friends who stay the whole day at the wedding (hehe, guilty party here!) This venue is so spacious, so pretty and SO CONVENIENT. It’s right along the MRT track (YCK MRT Station) and there’s a sheltered walkway that links the MRT station all the way to The Grassroots Club. For a while I was set on getting the venue even though they don’t allow on-site cooking and it’s away from Woodlands but after thinking a hundred times, I think I’m not willing to let go such a huge sum of money just for the venue (it’s almost thrice that of a CC’s MPH!). I would rather spend it on the honeymoon or frilly things like a candy corner or teh tarik live station or maybe makeup, clothes and bags? Ya, I like to spend my money on frivolous things like that hahaha. But seriously, if you have a bit more money to spare, do have it at The Grassroots Club. I think it’s quite the perfect venue. The next perfect one would be The Begonia Ballroom but I’ll do a part two for this. So look out for the sequel! (No, WordPress didn’t cut my entry this time!)

P.S: I’m not sure if you girls noticed but I’ve succumbed to a dot com. I’m on ourklumsyride.com now! I really do spend my money on frivolous things like this hahaha.

Love
klumsyride

The Decor Diaries Part 1: What a Woe!

First and foremost, I want to thank all those who have commented on previous post and also my friends who dropped me a messaged just to tell me it’s okay to do my research and book appointments with vendors this early. I feel much better now! ūüôā So today, I want to talk about wedding decor. I know some people won’t consider the wedding decor as something of top priority – my mom is definitely one of them. But I’m not those people. From the very beginning when Z and I started planning for the wedding, I knew very well that the wedding decor would be of significance to me. I’ve always loved attending weddings and admiring the beautiful array of fresh flowers, dais and the flowing drapes. Oh, gosh, DRAPES. My weakness has got to be drapes, especially when they are hung from wall to wall, with full ceiling coverage. Heck, I can just browse through Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest for hours looking at beautiful drapes. I cannot get enough of drapes. Can’t you tell? Hehe.

But alas, drapes come at a hefty price tag. As heavy as the drapes themselves. My heart sinks¬†each time I analyze¬†the catalogues sent by the vendors. I wasn’t sure if it was going to be worth it at all. I decided that it wasn’t after a while, and I was fine settling for the basic decor with no additional, melampau, drapes. Well, I thought I was quite settled by that decision already. Apparently not.¬†Me being the fickle-minded person that I am, I kept swaying from wanting drapes and not caring about drapes. I think my mom got really fed-up that she¬†stopped me from browsing through more pictures. Hehe.

I admit, this whole decor thing has caused me so much distress that I’ve even decided to have my own series just for decor,¬†The Decor Diaries. In this part of the series, I am going to share with you girls the wedding decor companies that I have shortlisted for my wedding. I have set up appointments with some of these companies as of now so we’ll see how it goes when I’ve made my decision.¬†And yes, I’ve decided to go for drapes and the shizz.¬†

Jentayu Wedding Gallery

Now, who doesn’t know of Jentayu right? I love how they pay so much attention to details. To be honest, they are not so big on drapes BUT they have fresh flowers and fresh flowers do just as well for me. Besides, it’s Jentayu,¬†hello?

Their packages don’t come cheap, of course. When I first saw the prices, I think I almost got a heart attack. Poor me. But after looking at the bundles and doing some quick calculations, I actually think they are pretty worth it. I actually like that they collaborate with TWC Inspirations for their wedding favours and wedding invitation cards. What’s not to love about TWC, right? T

Anggun Decor

To me, Anggun Decor has got to be THE vendor that you have to go to if you are crazy for drapes. I am so crazily in love with their decor. I mean, how can I not?? Every single time I attend a wedding that has the privilege to be graced by Anggun Decor, I will hyperventilate.¬†No kidding.¬†Just look at the photo of this very charming open concept dais! I really think Anggun Decor does a marvellous job when it comes to the dais for weddings held at CCs. Don’t you think so?

Comel Molek Wedding Decor

Now, how¬†comel¬†and¬†molek is this dais? I totally love it. Also, it’s in such a sweet shade of pastel and dusty pink – not too overwhelming. I LOVE pink but I never thought of having a total pink wedding because I thought it would be too much (I’m doing my friends a favour, here! Hehe!). But when I saw this, I was sold. Who says I can’t have my pink wedding with DRAPES? I attended a friend’s wedding and when I saw the dais, I knew in a heartbeat that it was done by ComelMolek. Although they are quite new in the industry, as compared to Jentayu, I think they’ve been doing pretty well even though they are not as active and popular on social media as compared to the other popular vendors. And they have nice drapes to beautify their dais’ backdrop. Their prices have increased since the last time I asked them early this year and I was very shocked but I guess, it is bound to happen anyway!

Eternally Yours – Weddings & Events

Now, this one, is another one that stole my heart. Z and I first got to know of Eternally Yours when we visited the wedding expo recently. When I saw their very unique platform/stage, I thought to myself, “Wow, this i something different!” Look at how the platform is covered by white flower petals. It adds a touch of class and extravagance to the whole set up, no?

Z and I spoke for about half an hour with the manager and she nicely explained to us in detail every package they offer. They also make such exclusive wedding gubahan trays. They make use of those clear acrylic boxes which reminds me of those gubahan trays from Malaysian weddings. Come, let me show you an example.

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Nice right??? Okay maybe the flowers around the trays are a bit much but the ones we saw at Expo were¬†so simple and elegant! So that’s about it. The vendors I’ve shortlisted. Actually, I shortlisted 5 vendors. The last one is RH Bridal but I decided not to include RH Bridal into this post because they have not replied me until now. It’s been more than a month. So, I’m a bit disheartened. But,¬†takpelah.

Now, do you understand how this whole decor thing is causing me such distress? They are all so beautiful and elegant, right? Funnily though, I am taking my time with booking the perfect wedding vendor because I do not want to rush it. I want to make sure that I select the right decor company that’s able to fulfil my requirements for drapes, fresh flowers, details and perhaps, an open concept dais? Well, the quest to clinch the right vendor will continue for now!

As for now, I’ll be booking 3 heavy weight vendors this week, inshaAllah! We have yet to book our photographer because we wanted to think it through after our appointment last week. But actually, we only took 1 minute after the appointment to think through because after we left, we smiled to each other and I knew, Z was sold. He tried to hide it but I know him too well. Hehe. I’ll update on this once we’ve paid the deposits for the 3 heavy weight vendors (photographer, caterer and bridal).

Till then!

Love, A

The First One

Hello, people! Wow I haven’t really been updating. When I first had this blog, I thought I would be updating religiously but I guess not. I’m currently busy marking scripts and scripts¬†of exam papers and gosh, I do not like it one bit. I can’t wait for this whole exam marking to end… It’s a torture to mark 150 scripts of karangan in such a limited time, you know. /exasperated sigh

Just a quick update related to the wedding preparation – we went to the wedding expo over the last weekend and I think nothing really caught my eyes except for the food from the food bazaar. Hehe. Okay la, to be fair I did like the decor from Eternally Yours and they use a lot of fresh flowers, which is a huge attraction point for me. But I guess, I am already drawn to my own choice of vendors whom I have contacted prior to the wedding expo. The expo visit was more for Z to find for himself suitable vendors for the reception at his side since we are doing separate receptions.

Also, Z and I will be meeting our first vendor tomorrow and hopefully all goes well! The first appointment we are making is with a photographer. Of all things! But I guess, it’s highly important for us¬†to have a good photographer for the wedding to capture our beautiful memories, InshaAllah! Can you girls make a guess who our Photographer will be, if all goes well tomorrow? Hehe.

Recently, I’ve been told that I’m making appointments way too early since the wedding won’t be until 2017. I was of course slightly affected. Hey, I’m sensitive by nature, y’know! I questioned¬†myself¬†¬†if it was the right choice to be starting on my research and meetings with vendors so soon but I actually think there’s nothing wrong with it especially since our wedding date is during the peak wedding period. Also, I really don’t want to bother with all the research next year since I foresee myself getting even busier with work. Besides there are already vendors who opened 2017 bookings! No harm starting early right?

Sometimes I feel like I should just keep mum about the whole planning process. But alah, biasalaaaa I get excited too easily. Ah well….

I’ll update again once I’m done with marking!

Love, A

Ideal or Practical Wedding?

Hello, everyone and Salam Aidiladha! May the remaining days of Tashreeq be blessed with ibadah, happy eating and remembrance of Allah, inshaAllah! Aameen!

Many of you would¬†probably be aware by now of the closure of primary and secondary schools today due to worsening haze condition on the evening of 24th September. I was of course, overjoyed when I first saw the news. It was only much later when logic creeped into my mind and I realised, I NEED TO FINISH REVISION WITH MY STUDENTS AND I STILL NEED TO FINISH ORAL. And no guys, we teachers still had to work and there’s just so much administrative stuff that needed (and still needs) to be settled. Now, whoever said teachers have it easy? :p

But that’s besides the point. What I really wanted to blog about was the shock I was greeted with when my dear father cooly said to me this evening that he wants a live band performing traditional music for the wedding. Wait… What? A live band? Did I hear correctly? You know, I¬†am starting to mishear things people say here and there. But just to be sure, I asked him again.

“Abah nak live band perform lagu Melayu asli.”

Yup, I wasn’t mistaken. My old man wants to have traditional Malay music performed by a live band, particularly¬†Orkes Budi. Not that I have anything against that, really. I¬†love traditional Malay music, especially zapin. And I wasn’t really thinking of how it would affect the wedding planning in the economic sense. (Of course I was worried laaa of the costs to be incurred.) Let me explain myself.

The first few times I envisioned my wedding was perhaps a few years ago. Wait of course not. A girl has been dreaming of her wedding since she was a toddler! Hehe. I had two versions of how I wanted my wedding. I have my¬†ideal wedding (grand, fairytale, ala Mariah & Sham-esque) and I have my version of practical wedding which I grew to be so accustomed to that resulted in me brushing aside any thoughts of my ideal wedding. My idea of a practical wedding doesn’t¬†need 1000 guests, nor does it involve any of the fancy frills and fanfare. I didn’t want any wang hantaran nor did I want any gift trays. And I nonchalantly said no to¬†photo booths, live entertainment and all that jazz. Just a simple affair with music played from my own playlist of approved-songs, simple¬†decor and nice-but-doesn’t-burn-the-pockets food, surrounded by family and friends. Senang cakap, a practical wedding won’t need all the unnecessary things la. Because what we want to focus on is the marriage¬†and not the wedding¬†right? Right?¬†Which was why I was slightly apprehensive about having a live traditional band at my wedding.

However, since I started researching for vendors and watching wedding videos, my idea of an ideal wedding started to distort my vision of having a practical wedding. Z, having known¬†me so well, even mentioned that¬†“You can have your grand wedding.” Hahaha wah, this guy is good. But anyways, I have been so caught up with contacting vendors, thinking of the wedding (yes, a bit too early, but I very kiasu mah and most of the vendors I like only have a few slots left!) that I’m starting to forget what I told myself about unnecessary spending. I keep having to remind¬†myself to go back to my intention and¬†niyyat¬†of getting married so that I won’t be swayed by the extra magic touch. But, it’s kinda hard, sometimes. You know? Does anybody experience the same conflicted emotions as me?

I did speak to my parents about the wedding finances and as much as I didn’t want to burden them, I didn’t want to disappoint them and come across as too hard-headed and rude as well. Every father would feel a great sense of responsibility over his children, especially his daughters and mine insisted on funding part of the wedding. I am grateful, of course but I just hope it’s not gonna cause any misunderstanding along the way, inshaAllah.

Anyways since I’m already on the topic of having a live band at my wedding, do you girls have any recommendations for a traditional live band other than Orkes Budi? My father insists on having Orkes Budi because he has watched them played live so if you have any reviews for them, it would be good too! ¬†(I’ve included a video of Orkes Budi and I thought it was quite good! What do you think?) But, my father’s criteria ¬†for a live band are as such:

  1. Not too noisy and messy
  2. Wear traditional clothes
  3. Perform fully traditional music with none in English
  4. Professional

And since my father wants a traditional live band kan, guess what sort of wedding do I want now? A traditional Malay wedding of course! Why not, kan? Just go along with it lah. Anyway I thought it was befitting of me as Malay Language teacher as well to have a traditional Malay wedding with some adat istiadat. 

The pursuit to save wherever I can is still ongoing, though. Don’t worry!

Love,
A