Panic! At the Disko

If you know me, you should know by now that I’ve been pretty chill with the whole wedding planning because I’ve more or less settled the vendors for my side of the reception. Also, I had 500 plus days to go till the wedding so it really left me with nothing much to do for the rest of this year. Boring, I know. But notice it’s all in past tense because we effectively just cut down the waiting game by a full 90 days! Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are bringing forth the wedding to an earlier date. Alhamdulillah!

I never thought this could happen to me because I thought we were pretty set with the date and all. There were talks about bringing the wedding to an earlier date between Z and I but we didn’t really put in conscientious effort to bring it up to our parents because we thought they might not approve.

Also, I’m not gonna lie – the challenges of being an engaged couple can really get to us sometimes. It’s really mind-boggling how the tiniest of issue can cause such an uproar. Also, being human, emotions such as envy and jealousy are no stranger to us. While I am happy to know of friends who are getting married earlier and I cannot contain my excitement when my friends break news about having a bun in the oven, I can’t stop myself from feeling envious because I wanna get married  and have babies too but I can’t because there’s still 500+++ days to go.

But I’m okay, trust me. Z and I believe that whatever’s meant to be, will be and there is certainly hikmah in us getting married slightly over two years from being engaged. Also, this particular Facebook post by Ustaz Mizi made me feel so much better about it.

Being delayed is a blessing, it happens so that you could be better prepared for what’s to come.

It’s a blessing when an expected deadline isn’t met. To settle down. To make your first million. To get in the university. To become a parent.

It’s a blessing that things didn’t happen sooner than you’d expect.

Delays are “downtimes” for you to utilise so that you could be better prepared.

Because ultimately God wants you to know that it is not by what you do, but by what He says – that love, mercy, and abundance enter into your life.

And failure is part of your training
Loneliness is part of your training
Rejection is part of your training
Disappointment is part of your training

You can’t learn to walk without tripping
Tripping is what teaches you how to walk.

You can’t learn how to love without disappointments. You can’t learn gratitude without loss. You can’t learn to appreciate abundance without lack. And you can’t learn companionship without lonely nights.

Delays can be painful. But they certainly are blessings through and through. Keep the faith while waiting.

But then I go to weddings and the whole internal struggle repeats itself. I know Allah has a better plan for us, that there are areas in which I can improve myself in like attending more religious classes, continue with Arabic classes, learn how to sew, be more patient and all that jazz. But I can’t help wondering why aren’t my prayers (to cepatkan the marriage) being answered? Astaghfirullah. ūüė¶  And we felt it most last weekend. So after speaking to our soon-to-be-married friends (I will eternally be grateful to the both of you, you know who you are) over the past weekend, we felt more compelled to cepatkan the wedding because we know that getting married earlier would be the better option for us. “When you’re ready, it’s better not to delay something that is good for you,” said our dear friend. That’s when Z and I started to think through our decision. We also didn’t waste any time and proceeded to check our finances to see if it’s possible for us to bring forth the wedding. Alhamdulillah, we are right on track and inshaAllah we will continue to be so. We checked the calendar for suitable dates and decided that August and September would be just nice. We didn’t have any particular dates in mind as long as it was an earlier date. We both spoke to our parents for their approval and while my mom was initially quite apprehensive, she got to terms with it because mak mana tak gembira kan???

panic-quotes-1So our plan was simple – just ask our vendors for available dates in August and September 2017. I scrambled to email all our confirmed vendors and let me tell you this – first time in this whole wedding planning journey that I am this close to getting a panic  bridezilla attack. The anxiety and anticipation of getting a negative reply (or worse, none at all) from the vendors made me feel so SCARED. Most of our vendors replied within an hour max (except for some). After getting the dates from our vendors, we had to double check the calendar. While September is good, the first Saturday of September holidays (teacher woes!!!) coincides with Aidiladha and the days of Tashriq. The middle part of September is not a good time since I’ll be down with exams and marking. So the best time has got to be the weekend before September holidays since the last week of Term 3 will be a short one (Teachers’ Day / Hari Raya Haji holiday) which means I can utilise my marriage leave. A quick check with our vendors and everyone (even Akrab!!!) gave positive replies. So that’s it guys, our new date will be 26 August 2017, inshaAllah!

The only problem is I still have yet to get a reply from Nawwarah Bridal (major vendor) and Hurhur Paperie (not really major). I think I’ve sent multiple e-mails in my bridezilla mode but still no reply. Help me, everybody! T_T To comfort my panicky self, I’m telling myself that if ada rezeki, inshaAllah I get to have NB as my bridal. Also, I’m secretly bersyukur sangat-sangat because inshaAllah the du’a that I made while performing umrah will be granted soon. ūüôā

It is really true what they say…

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I hope you can make du’a for us that NB will be available for the new date and all the planning goes smoothly. Aameen!

Love,

klumsyride

 

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The Decor Diaries Part 3: The One!

So I’ve not exactly blogged on why and how I chose Anggun Decor as the official decor vendor for the wedding at my side. I previously blogged in The Decor Diaries Part 1 and The Decor Diaries 2 regarding my decor dilemma. I mentioned how when it comes to decor, I place great importance on drapes and fresh flowers. Initially, I shortlisted ComelMolek and Anggun Decor before finally making my decision.

I decided on Anggun Decor simply because it’s THE ONLY wedding vendor I’ve had my eyes on since I started this whole wedding project. I mean, sure, I did like decor from other companies like Jentayu and even Mariah & Sham (they didn’t reply me!) since they offer bespoke wedding decor. There was even this one time when I e-mailed a Malaysian company because their decor is just amaaazing but when I got the quotation, kirim salam sudah.

Okay let me sidetrack a bit on these Malaysian wedding companies. I suspected long ago that these Malaysian vendors charge Singaporeans at such an exorbitant price, sometimes two to three times more of what they charge in Malaysia. To be sure of this, I e-mailed Vivy’s (step macam dah on first name basis but we met, kissed and hugged at a private event so yeah hehe) MUA, the one who’s all the rage now in Kolumpo, after a friend of mine emailed her and requested for her to come over to Singapore. The price ehhh, kalah Fatimah Mohsin and Nora Zee okay!!! Plus it’s in SGD and not inclusive of airfare and accommodation!! So when I emailed her, I decided to tell her I live in Bangsar  and she offered me a quote in Ringgit that is three times less what she quoted my friend. The same happened for the Malaysian decor company. Sigh, you all think we Singaporeans print money is it???? In fact, I can bet you your Malaysian customers are wayyyyy richer than us. T_T

Okay back to my Anggun Decor (AD) story. Despite other companies offering equally jaw-dropping wedding decor, I realised I keep coming back to Anggun. They may not update their IG as often as I’d like them to but it doesn’t really matter because somehow, my parents and I keep attending weddings by AD. So naturally, we tend to gravitate towards AD because we see their work first hand and  instantly fell in love over and over again. The best thing is that their office is in Bukit Batok which is veryyyyy near to my workplace. I am very pemalas so if wedding companies are located in the East, I usually just get Z to meet them or make an online agreement for deposit hehe. But since this is one of my major vendors, I HAVE to meet them. And we weren’t disappointed. Kak Nyta is very sweet and hospitable when my parents and I came for the appointment. I could see that my parents were already very comfortable with them and even though I’m the one paying for it, I find that it’s important for my parents to be senang hati also lah. I also caught a glimpse of the materials and items they used and they have quite a wide variety. I can’t wait!!!

Let me share some photos with you girls!

 

So pretty right? The first three are their Open Concept Dais (need to pay a little bit more) while the last is from their Basic Decor ( I think). I signed up for the Basic Decor Package first but I think I probably will top up to get the Open Concept Dais hehehehe. Oh and AD just did one recently at Begonia Ballroom and OHMYGOODNESS!!!! It’s so beautiful and just like a Malaysian wedding!

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So lawa!!!!!! Hehehe I’m getting more impatient just by seeing all these pretty photos! What’s for sure – I know I made the right choice by getting AD and inshaAllah everything goes well!

Love,

klumsyride

The Decor Diaries Part 1: What a Woe!

First and foremost, I want to thank all those who have commented on previous post and also my friends who dropped me a messaged just to tell me it’s okay to do my research and book appointments with vendors this early. I feel much better now! ūüôā So today, I want to talk about wedding decor. I know some people won’t consider the wedding decor as something of top priority – my mom is definitely one of them. But I’m not those people. From the very beginning when Z and I started planning for the wedding, I knew very well that the wedding decor would be of significance to me. I’ve always loved attending weddings and admiring the beautiful array of fresh flowers, dais and the flowing drapes. Oh, gosh, DRAPES. My weakness has got to be drapes, especially when they are hung from wall to wall, with full ceiling coverage. Heck, I can just browse through Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest for hours looking at beautiful drapes. I cannot get enough of drapes. Can’t you tell? Hehe.

But alas, drapes come at a hefty price tag. As heavy as the drapes themselves. My heart sinks¬†each time I analyze¬†the catalogues sent by the vendors. I wasn’t sure if it was going to be worth it at all. I decided that it wasn’t after a while, and I was fine settling for the basic decor with no additional, melampau, drapes. Well, I thought I was quite settled by that decision already. Apparently not.¬†Me being the fickle-minded person that I am, I kept swaying from wanting drapes and not caring about drapes. I think my mom got really fed-up that she¬†stopped me from browsing through more pictures. Hehe.

I admit, this whole decor thing has caused me so much distress that I’ve even decided to have my own series just for decor,¬†The Decor Diaries. In this part of the series, I am going to share with you girls the wedding decor companies that I have shortlisted for my wedding. I have set up appointments with some of these companies as of now so we’ll see how it goes when I’ve made my decision.¬†And yes, I’ve decided to go for drapes and the shizz.¬†

Jentayu Wedding Gallery

Now, who doesn’t know of Jentayu right? I love how they pay so much attention to details. To be honest, they are not so big on drapes BUT they have fresh flowers and fresh flowers do just as well for me. Besides, it’s Jentayu,¬†hello?

Their packages don’t come cheap, of course. When I first saw the prices, I think I almost got a heart attack. Poor me. But after looking at the bundles and doing some quick calculations, I actually think they are pretty worth it. I actually like that they collaborate with TWC Inspirations for their wedding favours and wedding invitation cards. What’s not to love about TWC, right? T

Anggun Decor

To me, Anggun Decor has got to be THE vendor that you have to go to if you are crazy for drapes. I am so crazily in love with their decor. I mean, how can I not?? Every single time I attend a wedding that has the privilege to be graced by Anggun Decor, I will hyperventilate.¬†No kidding.¬†Just look at the photo of this very charming open concept dais! I really think Anggun Decor does a marvellous job when it comes to the dais for weddings held at CCs. Don’t you think so?

Comel Molek Wedding Decor

Now, how¬†comel¬†and¬†molek is this dais? I totally love it. Also, it’s in such a sweet shade of pastel and dusty pink – not too overwhelming. I LOVE pink but I never thought of having a total pink wedding because I thought it would be too much (I’m doing my friends a favour, here! Hehe!). But when I saw this, I was sold. Who says I can’t have my pink wedding with DRAPES? I attended a friend’s wedding and when I saw the dais, I knew in a heartbeat that it was done by ComelMolek. Although they are quite new in the industry, as compared to Jentayu, I think they’ve been doing pretty well even though they are not as active and popular on social media as compared to the other popular vendors. And they have nice drapes to beautify their dais’ backdrop. Their prices have increased since the last time I asked them early this year and I was very shocked but I guess, it is bound to happen anyway!

Eternally Yours – Weddings & Events

Now, this one, is another one that stole my heart. Z and I first got to know of Eternally Yours when we visited the wedding expo recently. When I saw their very unique platform/stage, I thought to myself, “Wow, this i something different!” Look at how the platform is covered by white flower petals. It adds a touch of class and extravagance to the whole set up, no?

Z and I spoke for about half an hour with the manager and she nicely explained to us in detail every package they offer. They also make such exclusive wedding gubahan trays. They make use of those clear acrylic boxes which reminds me of those gubahan trays from Malaysian weddings. Come, let me show you an example.

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Nice right??? Okay maybe the flowers around the trays are a bit much but the ones we saw at Expo were¬†so simple and elegant! So that’s about it. The vendors I’ve shortlisted. Actually, I shortlisted 5 vendors. The last one is RH Bridal but I decided not to include RH Bridal into this post because they have not replied me until now. It’s been more than a month. So, I’m a bit disheartened. But,¬†takpelah.

Now, do you understand how this whole decor thing is causing me such distress? They are all so beautiful and elegant, right? Funnily though, I am taking my time with booking the perfect wedding vendor because I do not want to rush it. I want to make sure that I select the right decor company that’s able to fulfil my requirements for drapes, fresh flowers, details and perhaps, an open concept dais? Well, the quest to clinch the right vendor will continue for now!

As for now, I’ll be booking 3 heavy weight vendors this week, inshaAllah! We have yet to book our photographer because we wanted to think it through after our appointment last week. But actually, we only took 1 minute after the appointment to think through because after we left, we smiled to each other and I knew, Z was sold. He tried to hide it but I know him too well. Hehe. I’ll update on this once we’ve paid the deposits for the 3 heavy weight vendors (photographer, caterer and bridal).

Till then!

Love, A

The First One

Hello, people! Wow I haven’t really been updating. When I first had this blog, I thought I would be updating religiously but I guess not. I’m currently busy marking scripts and scripts¬†of exam papers and gosh, I do not like it one bit. I can’t wait for this whole exam marking to end… It’s a torture to mark 150 scripts of karangan in such a limited time, you know. /exasperated sigh

Just a quick update related to the wedding preparation – we went to the wedding expo over the last weekend and I think nothing really caught my eyes except for the food from the food bazaar. Hehe. Okay la, to be fair I did like the decor from Eternally Yours and they use a lot of fresh flowers, which is a huge attraction point for me. But I guess, I am already drawn to my own choice of vendors whom I have contacted prior to the wedding expo. The expo visit was more for Z to find for himself suitable vendors for the reception at his side since we are doing separate receptions.

Also, Z and I will be meeting our first vendor tomorrow and hopefully all goes well! The first appointment we are making is with a photographer. Of all things! But I guess, it’s highly important for us¬†to have a good photographer for the wedding to capture our beautiful memories, InshaAllah! Can you girls make a guess who our Photographer will be, if all goes well tomorrow? Hehe.

Recently, I’ve been told that I’m making appointments way too early since the wedding won’t be until 2017. I was of course slightly affected. Hey, I’m sensitive by nature, y’know! I questioned¬†myself¬†¬†if it was the right choice to be starting on my research and meetings with vendors so soon but I actually think there’s nothing wrong with it especially since our wedding date is during the peak wedding period. Also, I really don’t want to bother with all the research next year since I foresee myself getting even busier with work. Besides there are already vendors who opened 2017 bookings! No harm starting early right?

Sometimes I feel like I should just keep mum about the whole planning process. But alah, biasalaaaa I get excited too easily. Ah well….

I’ll update again once I’m done with marking!

Love, A

Ideal or Practical Wedding?

Hello, everyone and Salam Aidiladha! May the remaining days of Tashreeq be blessed with ibadah, happy eating and remembrance of Allah, inshaAllah! Aameen!

Many of you would¬†probably be aware by now of the closure of primary and secondary schools today due to worsening haze condition on the evening of 24th September. I was of course, overjoyed when I first saw the news. It was only much later when logic creeped into my mind and I realised, I NEED TO FINISH REVISION WITH MY STUDENTS AND I STILL NEED TO FINISH ORAL. And no guys, we teachers still had to work and there’s just so much administrative stuff that needed (and still needs) to be settled. Now, whoever said teachers have it easy? :p

But that’s besides the point. What I really wanted to blog about was the shock I was greeted with when my dear father cooly said to me this evening that he wants a live band performing traditional music for the wedding. Wait… What? A live band? Did I hear correctly? You know, I¬†am starting to mishear things people say here and there. But just to be sure, I asked him again.

“Abah nak live band perform lagu Melayu asli.”

Yup, I wasn’t mistaken. My old man wants to have traditional Malay music performed by a live band, particularly¬†Orkes Budi. Not that I have anything against that, really. I¬†love traditional Malay music, especially zapin. And I wasn’t really thinking of how it would affect the wedding planning in the economic sense. (Of course I was worried laaa of the costs to be incurred.) Let me explain myself.

The first few times I envisioned my wedding was perhaps a few years ago. Wait of course not. A girl has been dreaming of her wedding since she was a toddler! Hehe. I had two versions of how I wanted my wedding. I have my¬†ideal wedding (grand, fairytale, ala Mariah & Sham-esque) and I have my version of practical wedding which I grew to be so accustomed to that resulted in me brushing aside any thoughts of my ideal wedding. My idea of a practical wedding doesn’t¬†need 1000 guests, nor does it involve any of the fancy frills and fanfare. I didn’t want any wang hantaran nor did I want any gift trays. And I nonchalantly said no to¬†photo booths, live entertainment and all that jazz. Just a simple affair with music played from my own playlist of approved-songs, simple¬†decor and nice-but-doesn’t-burn-the-pockets food, surrounded by family and friends. Senang cakap, a practical wedding won’t need all the unnecessary things la. Because what we want to focus on is the marriage¬†and not the wedding¬†right? Right?¬†Which was why I was slightly apprehensive about having a live traditional band at my wedding.

However, since I started researching for vendors and watching wedding videos, my idea of an ideal wedding started to distort my vision of having a practical wedding. Z, having known¬†me so well, even mentioned that¬†“You can have your grand wedding.” Hahaha wah, this guy is good. But anyways, I have been so caught up with contacting vendors, thinking of the wedding (yes, a bit too early, but I very kiasu mah and most of the vendors I like only have a few slots left!) that I’m starting to forget what I told myself about unnecessary spending. I keep having to remind¬†myself to go back to my intention and¬†niyyat¬†of getting married so that I won’t be swayed by the extra magic touch. But, it’s kinda hard, sometimes. You know? Does anybody experience the same conflicted emotions as me?

I did speak to my parents about the wedding finances and as much as I didn’t want to burden them, I didn’t want to disappoint them and come across as too hard-headed and rude as well. Every father would feel a great sense of responsibility over his children, especially his daughters and mine insisted on funding part of the wedding. I am grateful, of course but I just hope it’s not gonna cause any misunderstanding along the way, inshaAllah.

Anyways since I’m already on the topic of having a live band at my wedding, do you girls have any recommendations for a traditional live band other than Orkes Budi? My father insists on having Orkes Budi because he has watched them played live so if you have any reviews for them, it would be good too! ¬†(I’ve included a video of Orkes Budi and I thought it was quite good! What do you think?) But, my father’s criteria ¬†for a live band are as such:

  1. Not too noisy and messy
  2. Wear traditional clothes
  3. Perform fully traditional music with none in English
  4. Professional

And since my father wants a traditional live band kan, guess what sort of wedding do I want now? A traditional Malay wedding of course! Why not, kan? Just go along with it lah. Anyway I thought it was befitting of me as Malay Language teacher as well to have a traditional Malay wedding with some adat istiadat. 

The pursuit to save wherever I can is still ongoing, though. Don’t worry!

Love,
A