Panic! At the Disko

If you know me, you should know by now that I’ve been pretty chill with the whole wedding planning because I’ve more or less settled the vendors for my side of the reception. Also, I had 500 plus days to go till the wedding so it really left me with nothing much to do for the rest of this year. Boring, I know. But notice it’s all in past tense because we effectively just cut down the waiting game by a full 90 days! Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are bringing forth the wedding to an earlier date. Alhamdulillah!

I never thought this could happen to me because I thought we were pretty set with the date and all. There were talks about bringing the wedding to an earlier date between Z and I but we didn’t really put in conscientious effort to bring it up to our parents because we thought they might not approve.

Also, I’m not gonna lie – the challenges of being an engaged couple can really get to us sometimes. It’s really mind-boggling how the tiniest of issue can cause such an uproar. Also, being human, emotions such as envy and jealousy are no stranger to us. While I am happy to know of friends who are getting married earlier and I cannot contain my excitement when my friends break news about having a bun in the oven, I can’t stop myself from feeling envious because I wanna get married  and have babies too but I can’t because there’s still 500+++ days to go.

But I’m okay, trust me. Z and I believe that whatever’s meant to be, will be and there is certainly hikmah in us getting married slightly over two years from being engaged. Also, this particular Facebook post by Ustaz Mizi made me feel so much better about it.

Being delayed is a blessing, it happens so that you could be better prepared for what’s to come.

It’s a blessing when an expected deadline isn’t met. To settle down. To make your first million. To get in the university. To become a parent.

It’s a blessing that things didn’t happen sooner than you’d expect.

Delays are “downtimes” for you to utilise so that you could be better prepared.

Because ultimately God wants you to know that it is not by what you do, but by what He says – that love, mercy, and abundance enter into your life.

And failure is part of your training
Loneliness is part of your training
Rejection is part of your training
Disappointment is part of your training

You can’t learn to walk without tripping
Tripping is what teaches you how to walk.

You can’t learn how to love without disappointments. You can’t learn gratitude without loss. You can’t learn to appreciate abundance without lack. And you can’t learn companionship without lonely nights.

Delays can be painful. But they certainly are blessings through and through. Keep the faith while waiting.

But then I go to weddings and the whole internal struggle repeats itself. I know Allah has a better plan for us, that there are areas in which I can improve myself in like attending more religious classes, continue with Arabic classes, learn how to sew, be more patient and all that jazz. But I can’t help wondering why aren’t my prayers (to cepatkan the marriage) being answered? Astaghfirullah. ūüė¶  And we felt it most last weekend. So after speaking to our soon-to-be-married friends (I will eternally be grateful to the both of you, you know who you are) over the past weekend, we felt more compelled to cepatkan the wedding because we know that getting married earlier would be the better option for us. “When you’re ready, it’s better not to delay something that is good for you,” said our dear friend. That’s when Z and I started to think through our decision. We also didn’t waste any time and proceeded to check our finances to see if it’s possible for us to bring forth the wedding. Alhamdulillah, we are right on track and inshaAllah we will continue to be so. We checked the calendar for suitable dates and decided that August and September would be just nice. We didn’t have any particular dates in mind as long as it was an earlier date. We both spoke to our parents for their approval and while my mom was initially quite apprehensive, she got to terms with it because mak mana tak gembira kan???

panic-quotes-1So our plan was simple – just ask our vendors for available dates in August and September 2017. I scrambled to email all our confirmed vendors and let me tell you this – first time in this whole wedding planning journey that I am this close to getting a panic  bridezilla attack. The anxiety and anticipation of getting a negative reply (or worse, none at all) from the vendors made me feel so SCARED. Most of our vendors replied within an hour max (except for some). After getting the dates from our vendors, we had to double check the calendar. While September is good, the first Saturday of September holidays (teacher woes!!!) coincides with Aidiladha and the days of Tashriq. The middle part of September is not a good time since I’ll be down with exams and marking. So the best time has got to be the weekend before September holidays since the last week of Term 3 will be a short one (Teachers’ Day / Hari Raya Haji holiday) which means I can utilise my marriage leave. A quick check with our vendors and everyone (even Akrab!!!) gave positive replies. So that’s it guys, our new date will be 26 August 2017, inshaAllah!

The only problem is I still have yet to get a reply from Nawwarah Bridal (major vendor) and Hurhur Paperie (not really major). I think I’ve sent multiple e-mails in my bridezilla mode but still no reply. Help me, everybody! T_T To comfort my panicky self, I’m telling myself that if ada rezeki, inshaAllah I get to have NB as my bridal. Also, I’m secretly bersyukur sangat-sangat because inshaAllah the du’a that I made while performing umrah will be granted soon. ūüôā

It is really true what they say…

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I hope you can make du’a for us that NB will be available for the new date and all the planning goes smoothly. Aameen!

Love,

klumsyride

 

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The Decor Diaries Part 3: The One!

So I’ve not exactly blogged on why and how I chose Anggun Decor as the official decor vendor for the wedding at my side. I previously blogged in The Decor Diaries Part 1 and The Decor Diaries 2 regarding my decor dilemma. I mentioned how when it comes to decor, I place great importance on drapes and fresh flowers. Initially, I shortlisted ComelMolek and Anggun Decor before finally making my decision.

I decided on Anggun Decor simply because it’s THE ONLY wedding vendor I’ve had my eyes on since I started this whole wedding project. I mean, sure, I did like decor from other companies like Jentayu and even Mariah & Sham (they didn’t reply me!) since they offer bespoke wedding decor. There was even this one time when I e-mailed a Malaysian company because their decor is just amaaazing but when I got the quotation, kirim salam sudah.

Okay let me sidetrack a bit on these Malaysian wedding companies. I suspected long ago that these Malaysian vendors charge Singaporeans at such an exorbitant price, sometimes two to three times more of what they charge in Malaysia. To be sure of this, I e-mailed Vivy’s (step macam dah on first name basis but we met, kissed and hugged at a private event so yeah hehe) MUA, the one who’s all the rage now in Kolumpo, after a friend of mine emailed her and requested for her to come over to Singapore. The price ehhh, kalah Fatimah Mohsin and Nora Zee okay!!! Plus it’s in SGD and not inclusive of airfare and accommodation!! So when I emailed her, I decided to tell her I live in Bangsar  and she offered me a quote in Ringgit that is three times less what she quoted my friend. The same happened for the Malaysian decor company. Sigh, you all think we Singaporeans print money is it???? In fact, I can bet you your Malaysian customers are wayyyyy richer than us. T_T

Okay back to my Anggun Decor (AD) story. Despite other companies offering equally jaw-dropping wedding decor, I realised I keep coming back to Anggun. They may not update their IG as often as I’d like them to but it doesn’t really matter because somehow, my parents and I keep attending weddings by AD. So naturally, we tend to gravitate towards AD because we see their work first hand and  instantly fell in love over and over again. The best thing is that their office is in Bukit Batok which is veryyyyy near to my workplace. I am very pemalas so if wedding companies are located in the East, I usually just get Z to meet them or make an online agreement for deposit hehe. But since this is one of my major vendors, I HAVE to meet them. And we weren’t disappointed. Kak Nyta is very sweet and hospitable when my parents and I came for the appointment. I could see that my parents were already very comfortable with them and even though I’m the one paying for it, I find that it’s important for my parents to be senang hati also lah. I also caught a glimpse of the materials and items they used and they have quite a wide variety. I can’t wait!!!

Let me share some photos with you girls!

 

So pretty right? The first three are their Open Concept Dais (need to pay a little bit more) while the last is from their Basic Decor ( I think). I signed up for the Basic Decor Package first but I think I probably will top up to get the Open Concept Dais hehehehe. Oh and AD just did one recently at Begonia Ballroom and OHMYGOODNESS!!!! It’s so beautiful and just like a Malaysian wedding!

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So lawa!!!!!! Hehehe I’m getting more impatient just by seeing all these pretty photos! What’s for sure – I know I made the right choice by getting AD and inshaAllah everything goes well!

Love,

klumsyride

The Photobooth Predicament Part 2

Wow! I finally made it to this post. I’ve so many backlogged posts SO imagine my horror when I found out that some of my drafts are gone – including the one I wrote on the Photobooth topic. It’s really like a double whammy for my since WordPress are up half of my previous post. Which is why I decided to cut the story short and present to you my choice of vendor for Photobooth… The winner goes to….

*drumrolls*

HURHUR PAPERIE!!!!!

 

Yes!!! I instantly fell in love with this very backdrop. I know it’s probably going to be out of style next year since we still have got a long way to go… But who cares???? Hahaha. I will probably change my mind but it’s okay since the package I signed up for includes a customized backdrop. It is however for 5 hours and while I would love to have them for the whole reception I think, no need laaaa… My initial concern was that nanti pengantin tak dapat bergambar at Photobooth but I realized it’s not a problem since we can take before we leave for Z’s side anyway. So yay!!!! I am very puas hati just by looking at their photos and I really hope I get to attend a wedding with them around! Hehehe.

And good thing is, I didn’t have to give up my previous package with Pixclique since I decided to give it to Z as a present since I know Z is really the fuss-free type of person when it comes to all these miscellaneous stuff. He wanted a Photobooth but he’s also not bothered about finding one so I might as well give mine to him. Not much of changes to be made to the booking anyway! Bride and groom masih sama! Hehe.

I’ll be updating on my chosen decor vendor soon, inshaAllah! The draft has been in the system since early this year! Such a procrastinator I am! Till then!

Love

klumsyride

The Perfect Venue Part 1

So, I’m not sure if any of you read the papers recently but this certain article caught my attention.

Malay couples paying more for alternative wedding venues

Malay couples are increasingly moving away from the traditional wedding ceremony at void decks and holding them at private venues, even if that means paying more.

Wedding planners catering to Malay marriages told The Sunday Times that about 30 per cent of their clients are now having their weddings at community clubs, country clubs or function halls.

It was less than 10 per cent five years ago.

The Straits Times, 13 March 2016

Nothing new for most of us, of course. It’s no longer uncommon to be attending Malay weddings held at venues such as community clubs, Hort Park and country clubs. Majority of these wedding venues come with a hefty price tag, especially if you were to compare with void decks. But of course, you pay for the services, facilities and ambience and if these things are what you’re looking for, it’s definitely not wrong. There are also venues that offer all-in-one packages at a steal and in my opinion, this works best for fuss-free couples. I’m still on the search for The Perfect Venue for my side of the reception so while I’m at it, I thought I should share some of the alternative and unique venues that my family, Z and I have looked into. For me, it is important that the venues are permanent, air-conditioned or not. I’m not exactly interested in outdoor weddings under a huge and temporary tent. So let’s look at my list of venues consisting of:

  1. Muslim Delights @ Luzerne
  2. Hort Park
  3. The Grassroots Club
  4. Begonia Ballroom
  5. The Joyden Hall
  6. Grand Marquee @ Alkaff Mansion (not available after Dec 2016)

All-in-one Wedding Venue: Muslim Delights @ Luzerne

When Z and I first started planning the wedding, we toyed with the idea of having the wedding reception at Muslim Delights @ Luzerne. I first fell in love with the venue when I found out it’s THE venue that Taufik Batisah held his wedding. the venue consists of indoor and outdoor function halls and can fit quite a number of tables. They also provide changing room, a room for resting (with beds!), toilets and prayer room. The dais is also not too shabby and quite to my liking. Best of all, we don’t even have to rent tiffany chairs since they are included in the package. We also felt that it was a great venue for combined weddings especially for us since it’s basically in between our houses. But in the end, we decided to give the venue a miss despite the reasonable package offered to us because our families preferred to have separate wedding functions. There are other wedding venues you can look into if you are looking for a fuss-free wedding. They are Charisma D’venue (for an intimate wedding dinner reception), The Orange Ballroom, Muslim Delights at The Grassroots Club and The Ballroom by AB Shaik. Oh, Muslim Delights also has another in-house venue at The Grassroots Club and the prices are slightly lower than that of Luzerne’s but the venue is just as beautiful! ūüôā

Slightly More Atas Than A Community Centre’s MPH: Hort Park MPH

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Credit: HOST Weddings & Events

If you are a fan of garden-themed weddings, that the function hall at Hort Park has got to be the venue for you. I attended a friend’s wedding here and except for the location, I thought it’s a beautiful place to have a wedding. I shared with my parents how beautiful the venue was and they were initially interested in the idea of having the wedding in a garden as well. The rental of the venue was not bad (I won’t say affordable because that’s subjective) for something that’s out of the ordinary. You can easily find the rates here. Don’t you love it when companies and organisations upload their rental rates or package prices online, readily available for us netizens? I don’t really enjoy emailing neither do I enjoy making phone calls so I greatly appreciate little things like this. Hehe. A thing to not is that they don’t allow cooking on-site so there’ll be additional logistic charges you need to pay to your caterer. Anyway, in the end, my parents decided against the venue because they must have the venue at Woodlands because we live in Woodlands. Ok. Can.

Slightly More Atas Than A Community Centre’s MPH: The Grassroots Club MPH

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When I saw this photo, I went O-M-G. 36 tables you know!!! Your guests certainly don’t have to fight for tables especially during peak periods. And you still can have enough space for family members and loyal friends who stay the whole day at the wedding (hehe, guilty party here!) This venue is so spacious, so pretty and SO CONVENIENT. It’s right along the MRT track (YCK MRT Station) and there’s a sheltered walkway that links the MRT station all the way to The Grassroots Club. For a while I was set on getting the venue even though they don’t allow on-site cooking and it’s away from Woodlands but after thinking a hundred times, I think I’m not willing to let go such a huge sum of money just for the venue (it’s almost thrice that of a CC’s MPH!). I would rather spend it on the honeymoon or frilly things like a candy corner or teh tarik live station or maybe makeup, clothes and bags? Ya, I like to spend my money on frivolous things like that hahaha. But seriously, if you have a bit more money to spare, do have it at The Grassroots Club. I think it’s quite the perfect venue. The next perfect one would be The Begonia Ballroom but I’ll do a part two for this. So look out for the sequel! (No, WordPress didn’t cut my entry this time!)

P.S: I’m not sure if you girls noticed but I’ve succumbed to a dot com. I’m on ourklumsyride.com now! I really do spend my money on frivolous things like this hahaha.

Love
klumsyride

The Photobooth Predicament

It seems that planning this wedding has filled me with dilemma after dilemma. If it’s not decor, it’s berkat. If it’s not berkat, it’s live entertainment. This is probably due to me being very mata rambang and fickle-minded about what I want. Do you girls face the same problem too?

So the latest problem I had recently had something to do with Photobooth. I’ve already mentioned previously in¬†Almost Complete (Confessions of a Kiasu Bride)¬†that I’ve secured¬†Pixclique¬†as the photobooth vendor for my side of the wedding. I booked them around August last year because I thought their prices were quite reasonable. I also liked their photobooth system. When I was looking around for photobooth vendors, I had a few requirements¬†in mind. They are:

  1. Must be able to print photo strips with customised design (very important! I only wanted photo strips and nothing else.)
  2. Package includes unlimited printed photos for guests
  3. Minimum of 5 hours
  4. Pretty nice backdrop design
  5. Doesn’t cost more than $700

Wishing Wand

I was initially tertarik to¬†Wishing Wand¬†because who wouldn’t? I consider WW to be one of the premier photobooth vendors in Singapore. They are probably the Jentayu and Ishq of photobooths,¬†offering bespoke and wonderfully curated themes and photo booth designs. When I saw their photo strip bookmarks, I was SOLD.

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Siapa yang tak berkenan, you tell me???

But alas, my hopes and dreams to have them shattered because…

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Yes, ladies and gentlemen. Their prices exceeded my budget. I understand that for their service and quality, it’s quite a reasonable price to pay. But I wasn’t ready to pay that amount, so I had to say goodbye to WW. ūüė¶ I then encountered Fab.foto¬†from a colleague’s wedding and I thought hey, they are pretty good!

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I inquired them on their packages and although the price they quoted me for a 6-hour service was slightly above budget, I thought it was not too bad until they clarified that the quotation was for single photo printing regardless of the number of guests in the photograph. I would have to pay extra to have multiple print-outs. I was disappointed, yet again. There is always the option of having the photobooth for a shorter period of time to accommodate to my budget but I was adamant that I will find The One. So I continued to search high and low until I chanced upon Pixclique one fine day.

They have photo strips. Check.

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They can print unlimited photos for guests. Check. They have a¬†6-hour¬†package. Check. Their backdrop designs are pretty nice. Check. They fit my budget. CHECK, CHECK, CHECK. They even have this pretty nifty contraption of their own that I thought is a reminiscent of the good old Neoprint days. Come, I show you…

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It’s ingenious! Touch screen leh. Okay maybe there are other photobooth vendors incorporating the same technology but this is the first time I see such things so please allow me to be jakun. Hehe. I immediately deposited the money and for the most of last year and early¬†2016, I was pretty satisfied with my decision. Until I saw this particular photobooth vendor

Jeng jeng jeng… This is supposed to be a completed entry but since WordPress cut my entry I’m gonna continue with a sequel. Nantikan kesudahannya… Hahahah!

Love
klumsyride

 

Can I Ask A Favour Of You? 



When I first saw updates about the PLATINUM Luxe Wedding 2016, I wasn’t so interested to attend knowing that both Z and I have more or less secured our vendors. And I know it’s also not Z’s cup of tea to attend a luxury wedding showcase (I was right). However, we went in the end as I wanted to meet the vendor who will be working on the wedding favors for my side of the reception – TWC Inspirations.

So I booked TWC based on my mom’s advice. She fell in love with their favors – especially the tinned chocolates. She wanted them and she wouldn’t have it any other way. Trust me, I tried to convince her to give honey in a jar as wedding favors (even backing up with the fact that honey is a Sunnah food) and she gave a flat no. Well, secretly, I wanted TWC as well which was why I decided to make a deposit recently with them. However, had no opportunity to meet them. It was such a great risk on my part to be doing so since it was 50% deposit, and quite a large sum of money it was!

It was TWC themselves who recommended for us to meet during the event and I thought this was a good time for us to meet them. Now, allow me to sidetrack a bit – Z and I have always made it a point to have a physical meeting with the vendors we are engaging. Well, it’s more of Z and less of me. I’m really the super kanchiong one who will readily dispose of my money for deposit without a prior meeting or discussion with the vendor because (a) I really want them and (b) it is out of pure convenience. I mean, isn’t iBanking the most delightful thing to happen in the history of banking and technology? As for Z, he prefers the need to establish a client-vendor relationship the traditional way as it is more personal, regardless of the service rendered. (Shame on me really – I’m always the one who places the importance on the added personal touch and here he is reminding me to do the same when I don’t. May Allah bless him! Ameen!) And Z’s right of course, by establishing such connection through a meeting, we get to clarify our doubts and know a little bit more about the vendor.

So yes – after the meeting, we got a sample of the Tin box which I booked and can I just say how beautiful it is? I’m so excited to see how ours will turn out to be! *dreamy eyes* My mom certainly has such exquisite taste and Tak rugi dengar cakap Mak! I love how TWC places importance on customization without compromising on their quality. Even their bunga rampai holders have an added touch of grandeur with silk ribbons and what not. Let me share some photos with you girls, just in case some of you are looking for ideas on what to give out as favors.


Brownies in a customized box. This happened to be from a dear friend’s wedding. My family loves the brownies! It was also this favour that reaffirmed my mom’s interest in TWC.

Candy coated chocolates – how cute!


Bunga rampai cones – so elegant!

Very exclusive wedding invites – with matching envelope linings and all!


They even have laced eggs for bunga telur!

And this was the picture that got my mom (and me) interested. Hehe.

Of course I’ve been told I can DIY certain things but time is of the essence for me. I am greatly lacking in patience when it comes to this sort of thing though ambition I have. Being an educator, I really don’t have much time and I’m also lazy, I admit. Anyways, you know what’s even more awesome? TWC’s package includes delivery (they can even make multiple deliveries based on the needs and requirements of your family and event) so you don’t have to fork out extra money nor manpower for that. I don’t know about you girls, but that solves many things for my family and I!

Also, apart from favors, we even managed to secure our official wedding videographer during the showcase. No prizes for guessing who but more on that in another entry. As for now, I need to get back to my markings. I do however have a strong and burning urge to blog on a topic I’ve been thinking about lately and that is ¬†“How to treat people who are helping you (i.e. Friends, families, bridesmaids and groomsmen) rightfully”. Actually it’s a topic that’s pretty universal and doesn’t only relate to weddings but, ah well.

Gotta go for now!

Love,

 

 

Because I Tehtarik Dengan You

I love teh tarik. Especially if it’s from the teh sarbat stall near Bussorah Street. If Z and I happen to be around the area and have nothing to do, or we are waiting for the next prayer time, we would pay a visit to the stall to have our fix of bubbly, sweet and milky teh Tarik (and a glass of warm water to eradicate any guilt from our hearts). In fact, it even used to be a weekly thing for a few years when I was still single, in the pre-Z era. I just love having deep and meaningful conversations over a glass of teh Tarik. I am really quite pakcik¬†in that sense.

So, I thought it’d be nice to have a teh Tarik live station at our wedding. We attended a wedding at Warung in the East last year and they had teh Tarik but I forgot to take a card. Hahaha. So, I’m just wondering if any of you know of any teh Tarik contacts?

Heheheh now I’m craving for teh Tarik.

Love
klumsyride