Assalamualaikum all! It’s been so long! I never got around to writing my wedding vendor reviews and here we are with our little one keeping ourselves busy and having us on our toes. Yup, we have a little klumsy baby! 😂 In fact, little pumpkin just turned 7 months. How time flies. And it sure has been a ride!The pregnancy was a really interesting series of firsts for me. I had pretty mild morning sickness in the first trimester but second trimester saw me being very energetic. In fact I was at my best in the second trimester that I was able to walk an average of 24k steps daily during our honey-turned-babymoon trip to London and Italy. The third trimester was a whirlwind of events. I had to settle into a new work environment, got hospitalized after a waterbag leakage scare, went on 2 months hospitalization leave… Hahaha amidst all that, it’s amazing how we managed to keep our pregnancy a secret, at least in social media la.Little pumpkin’s birth was pretty dramatic, followed by his 3 days stay in NICU due to his low blood sugar. It was a very raw and emotional period for me, being able to bring baby AZ home only on his 7th day on Earth. Going back to the hospital everyday, hoping he’d be discharged each time only to go home empty handed without my baby – wow that was really a test of my patience and imaan. I didn’t immediately get attached to belittle pumpkin when he was born but the NICU episode brought about a new set of emotions in me, especially with mommy guilt and what not. Alhamdulillah baby AZ is all well and active now! Confinement was also an emotional period for me. Breastfeeding didn’t come easy – little pumpkin had trouble latching initially after getting used to the bottle. I didn’t want his blood sugar levels to dip so we resorted to formula. I kept going back to wanting to fully breastfeed to fully formula feeding him. Alhamdulillah, Z was supportive the whole time. He of course preferred for baby AZ to be fully breastfed but he also didn’t want to stress me out. I had thought that I didn’t have enough supply initially only to find out that I’m an oversupply mummy. Alhamdulillah. We gradually weaned baby AZ off formula milk and eventually by week 4 he’s fully breastfed until now. Alhamdulillah.Confinement wise, I was pretty strict on not going out for the first 44 days (except for doctor visits and first three days of Eid but even so I made sure we’re home by maghrib). I didn’t eat any jamu but focused more on eating healthy and wholesome foods instead. The jamu that my makcik urut gave was left untouched even though little pumpkin had no jaundice. I’m just very cautious about consuming prepackaged jamu and majun because you never know what goes into those things these days. Gotta keep your liver and kidneys healthy, yah!Following the end of confinement, I didn’t bring little pumpkin out much till he turned 3 months. I had many reasons for it. I wanted baby AZ to get accustomed to his new world at home first, building his immunity against common household viruses and bacteria and what not. I also didn’t want to disrupt his nap and feeding times. I absolutely HATE it when people keep wanting to carry him while he’s asleep and want to play with him when he’s about to sleep. You can say I’m an overprotective mummy or that I should have exposed baby AZ to the outside world more la…. But to each her own. We bring baby out often these days though now that he’s much bigger and active and curious… Being on no pay leave has also allowed me to witness so many of his milestones, start him on baby-led-weaning (BLW) because baby hates his mashed foods, and enjoy so many morning and afternoon cuddles.I’d say that motherhood has been one hell of a ride for me but I’m so glad Z has been the best, most hands-on, supportive and loving husband and father ever. In fact, Z enjoys babywearing so much I let him do it all the time unless he’s sick 😅Alhamdulillah. We also get a lot of help from my parents, especially my mother. :)Anyways, parenthood also came with many lifestyle changes and a series of purchases we regret getting. Probably gonna blog about that soon! Here’s us from 3 months back, I think! Love,A
Alhamdulillah we are married guys! It’s been a month in fact! 😬
But not to worry, I’ll be back to update some important highlights in our wedding planning as well as reviews, InshaAllah! Watch this space! 😘
Don’t you think 2017 is zooming by although we were just trying to grapple with the fact that we just entered the new year? Such is life. Somehow, I couldn’t be happier for many reasons, not necessarily related to the wedding or the new life waiting for me come August. In any case, Z and I have finally filed our nikah for registration sometime last week. Alhamdulillah!
In all honesty, I didn’t find the process too stressful or anything. Maybe because I wasn’t the one doing the registration hehe. Z’s been such a sweetheart and I am full of gratitude thinking about him and what he has done for me. Also because, I think I was the one who was stressing him out and pushing him to “quickly register”. Hahaha. Typical of me to do that.
In my panic-excited mode, I reminded Z that we had to submit the registration 150 days before the nikah only to realise that I must have misread the requirements. It turned out to be on the 150th day up UNTIL the date of solemnization (simply said, 149 days BEFORE the wedding). Silly me, I didn’t check the calendar on ROMM’s website prior to that. It wasn’t really an issue but it made me extra jumpy. Luckily for us, we did not give two hoots about staying up till midnight to wait for the registration to open or I would have gotten into trouble with Z.
Allow me to digress a little to give you a little insight on our choice of Tok Kadi. Now, we weren’t too particular with our choice of Tok Kadi. (The Tok Kadi is the man who carries out the solemnization process in a Muslim marriage, without whom the marriage may not be accepted. There is a list of kadi (or qadi) who have been appointed in Singapore to carry out this responsibility.) I know I wanted someone firm as the Tok Kadi as I feel that the solemnization or the nikah is not just something procedural nor lighthearted but rather a solemn affair that has its sets of requirements to abide by. While the process should not be made complicated for parties involved, I strongly believe it has to be very seriously done. The khutbah after nikah is something I look forward to and I get disappointed when it’s too short and before you know the kadi is off to his next appointment, in a rush no less. Very anti-climactic. I know some couples who prefer the younger Tok Kadi(s) who are more entertaining (and there’s nothing wrong with that) or those who are fuss-free and don’t talk much but you do you – it’s a personal choice afterall. It’s just what I feel is right to make the nikah all the more memorable for Z, myself and our parents and families. 🙂
Z and I didn’t do much research like looking for videos of nikah ceremonies; we have attended ample nikah ceremonies to know that we didn’t want so and so kadi for the aforementioned reasons. For some reason though, I was very interested in getting either Ustaz Pasuni Maulan or Ustaz Syed Mustafa Alsagoff, the latter after having attended his class during our marriage preparatory workshop with Syariah Consultancy. Alhamdulillah, Z was also agreeable to my choices. After seeking advice from my parents, they emphasized their interest in Ustaz Pasuni since he was their Tok Kadi.
So when we could finally register our nikah on ROMM’s website, we were disheartened to find out that Ustaz Pasuni did not have an available slot on our date. I tried not to freak out (it was 6.40 am and I was braving the morning crowd in the train on the way to work while Z was at home doing the registration). Maybe it wasn’t our rezeki, I told Z. Z proceeded to check for Ustaz Syed Mustafa and he was available for the day, but not for the slot we wanted unfortunately. I couldn’t think. The crowded train only made me more angsty. So I tried to calm down a little and told Z we should just settle it in the evening while he tried to contact Ustaz Pasuni to inquire about our nikah date.
I’m not one to be patient despite how time and time again, patience has proven to be the best virtue to hold on to. I never learn of course but this whole process was a testimony to that. Alhamdulillah we decided to wait it out because after calling him up, he confirmed his availability for our date. I was beaming when I received the news from Z although that very day progressed into a very emotional one for the both of us. (Our beloved ustaz, Alharhum Ustaz Zhulkeflee went on to meet our Creator that day and it was by far one of the most heartbreaking news we’ve received this year. We have certainly lost a gem, in the Muslim ummah. Having attended his classes for nearly 3 years, he has certainly played a huge part in shaping our worldview, making us who we are today.)
Anyways, Z proceeded with the booking eventually and alhamdulillah it’s all settled now. We just have to make a trip to ROMM together with my dad and then wait patiently for D-day. Hehe. InshaAllah everything will go well.
Can’t wait, honestly! Hehe.
Impatiently signing off,
Gonna squeeze some time for a brief update cos I can finally heave a sigh of relief and syukur now that we have finally settled the venue for my side alhamdulillah! The anxiety leading up to balloting results made me panic and I felt unsettled so many times. I also couldn’t proceed with our wedding invites because we were neither here nor there. Venue was the only thing we needed to settle but not having settled it put our preparations to a momentary halt which I hated because I just wanted to keep moving and ticking everything off our list. Yes, I’m very impatient like that.
But yes, alhamdulillah! The whole venue issue created series of drama moments at home man! It was truly a battle – tears were shed and pain was involved when we were turned away one by one by the various CCs around Woodlands and Yishun. I remember frantically calling and emailing CCs all over Singapore just to have a back up plan in case we didn’t get the venue of our choice. Anyways, now that we’ve got the venue settled, I can finally start thinking about my decor hehe!
We’ve already met up with our bridal to discuss about our outfits – Zubi was very pleasant, welcoming and forthcoming. I had thought that I came prepared but apparently not since I’m pretty fickle and changed my mind even during the discussion. Being rambang mata, I kept having to search for more pictures and kept changing my mind there and then. I’m not saying that it wasn’t a fruitful discussion – we did eventually decide on our colours and designs but in retrospect, I could have been more prepared! Point to note before I meet Kak Nyta to disuss the decor next month or so.
Last update: we decided to replace one of our vendors as my dad had a change of heart. I’ve yet to update my previous vendor for this department so More on this in the upcoming entry.
Wow, it certainly has been ages since I last updated this blog of mine! I’ve really been so caught up with a lot of things – planning, preparing, executing. None of which had anything to do with our wedding. Heh. I never thought I’d actually be this chill at this stage but I shouldn’t be too quick in saying so. I certainly did have a few bridezilla moments. But really girls…
Of course, it’s not like we didn’t accomplish anything at all. We did strike off a few items from our checklist. Some quick updates:-
- Buy our matrimonial bed – We happened to be at Expo one day and lo and behold, there was a furniture fair! We managed to get a bed and mattress that both of us agreed to (didn’t think getting a bed could be so difficult!) and we liked that it can be delivered as and when we like as long as we give them 3-4 weeks notice!
- Buy wedding band & mahar – I’m getting two rings! Yes two. Hehe. As we both agreed to no monetary form of gift / hantaran, my dear kind-hearted Z decided I could get two rings hehe. Alhamdulillah! We opted to get rose gold for both the wedding band and mahar. We managed to get both rings on the same day (we were just supposed to survey for them but ended up buying them because you know, I’m a bit impatient like that. But good la cos my mahar takes 6 months to be ready since it’s customized) from Goldheart and Love & Co. at Tampines Mall. Service from both stores was great – extra mention for Love & Co. for a personalised service! They even served us tea and biscuits! Extra happy with the ring Z got me from Love & Co. too! 🙂 No pictures until the actual day!
- Book airplane tickets & accommodation for our mini honeymoon – Finally made time for this. We decided to go with SilkAir instead of JetStar or Tiger since the prices for budget airline add up to be about the same. So why not, right? I’m having second thoughts about the resort we’ve booked but I guess I’ll think about that later…
Yup, that’s about it. Z mentioned how everything had nothing to do with the actual wedding but rather life after wedding but then again, the marriage is what matters most right? 🙂
Anyways, I’m currently at the ideation stage for our wedding invitations. I had wanted the ever ubiquitous floral theme initially but I’m now starting to go for something more minimalist and classic. Or a mix of both because I still love flowers. Like so:
They are so pretty! I spend hours scouring Pinterest for ideas and it doesn’t help at all! I just keep changing what I want. I can’t even decide the size that I want for the card. A6 is definitely too small and I have mixed feelings for DL – it’s neither here nor there. A square card is cute too! Gah! And I’ve got ideas to include envelope liners and all but really, I’ve got no time for that so I guess I’ll just reserve that for the special ones and the ones whom I know will not chuck my invitation card aside. Hehe.
Also, I was supposed to start on the card over this long weekend but hey, it’s almost ending! I obviously didn’t do anything about it… And the next time I can finally start on the card is in two weeks time because my dear friend is getting married and duty calls for this bridesmaid!
Maybe I shouldn’t be too ambitious and just, you know, get someone to do the card for me?
Oh the dilemma!
Bridesmaids are all the rage these days that it is not uncommon to see a whole bridal entourage in matchy outfits. Bridesmaids actually play a functional role (or roles) in a wedding, in spite popular beliefs that most them are around to tangkap jambu/glamour. For me, I know I need my bridesmaids around to calm me down and help me around when help is in need. I have taken proper care and thought in selecting my bridesmaids and I know I NEED to choose my closest friends to be my bridesmaids. No questions asked.
Now, based on my past experiences, I believe that it’s important that your bridesmaids are someone you’re close to and not just anyone you know like your sister’s friend whom you just met or a friend you got acquainted with via your boyfriend and have only known for some time or you chose her just because her boyfriend will be your future husband’s groomsmen too so it’ll look good that everybody will be in pairs. I’ve been and will be in that situation and to be honest, I just don’t quite like it because my heart’s just not into it. I want to be able to carry out my role sincerely and not reluctantly and begrudgingly. Of course, my opinions are open to contention but to each her own.
I understand how you can click with someone almost instantly and become the best of friends but now that I’m 26, it’s getting harder and harder for that to happen. Anyone who knows me well enough knows that I can be a little bit less than lukewarm in real life and I don’t readily accept someone new in my life. As for now, I’m comfortable and contented with the few good friends (and even fewer very good/best friends) that I keep close to my heart.
So basically, I chose my bridesmaids based on the following:
- Someone I’m very close to and have known for over two years
- Someone I can trust
- Someone I’ve traveled with at least once (this is important because if that person can travel with me, it means she knows my quirks and how annoying I am pretty well hahaha)
- Girls from various and important stages in my life namely high school, university days, AAM days and in the beginning of my career
So with that, I’ve shortlisted 6 very beautiful and awesome girls and I know I cannot choose any other. I can’t wait to introduce them soon (and start bothering them more hehe). Meanwhile, it’s time to research for the bridesmaid packages that I’ll be doing and the dresses that my girls will be twirling in. Exciting!
Also, I’ve just booked our 4D3N stay at a really pretty 5* resort somewhere both Z and I have never been to for our short honeymoon in September. We unanimously agreed that this short trip should be a quiet one with a sea view (Z loves the sea more than I do – I’m very much a cities and mountains kinda person) before we embark on the bigger and even more exciting trip in December 2017. Also, we can’t possibly be staying in multiple 5* hotels in Europe so this has got to be one of the few times we can do it hahaha.
I’m finally back blogging after a long hiatus! And with good news at that – we are down to a year till our solemnization! Yes guys, one more year. It’s a mixture of emotions all of a sudden – panicky yet thrilling, excited yet afraid. We have been relaxing for way too long so now that we have finally hit the one year countdown mark, things are starting to get more serious. (Just an update that our nikah will be on 5th August 2017 while the sanding on 26th August – our major and required vendors are all available for both dates, Alhamdulillah. We decided not to find separate photographers or Mak andam for the solemnization because adding extra hours from our current vendors will still be cheaper than getting new ones even if we take the less popular vendors.)
Coincidentally, we will be attending our marriage workshop this weekend. It’ll be conducted by Syariah Consultancy and held at Masjid An-Nur since it’s more convenient for me. We chose Syariah Consultance because we wanted something that is more islamically inclined – it’s our personal preference! I guess it only adds on to the seriousness.
I’ll be back with reviews on the course. Till then, pray for us!